My throat is raw and I feel like I was hit by a truck, so I missed church and stayed in bed this morning.

I've signed up for one more LOAD challenge in May, I know I failed the last two, but I'm not quite ready to give up scrapbooking completely. This challenge is all about finding your personal style, and if I can focus on that, I can make the process less complicated and chaotic.
I've taken steps to streamline my out of control hobby and have given away a ton of idea books and supplies. Even the expensive stuff I HAD to have, but never used like my QuiKutz. That baby was 90 bucks and the dies were 120 bucks a set and I've used the think less than 10 times in 7 years. Time to let if go to someone who will use it, or who will at least not feel guilty when they don't use like I did.
I am going to be more relaxed this time, digital layouts like the one above will count. My goals are less lofty because next month i also want to learn this stitch:

It's time to take on another knitting challenge and learn to read patterns and a simple cable knit design. I'm ready to take my socks up to a new level.
You read it here first and will continue to have to read it here until you absolutely DIE from boredom.
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Lately, I've been thinking a lot about the parable of the bridegroom/bridesmaids.
There have been some events that have happened that have made this story really press on my mind. Our temple sealing was something we waited and waited for. We worked for it as well, but a lot of the process, involved waiting by the proverbial door, keeping the lamps filled so that when the door opened, we could enter.
When we got that letter stating that the season was here, we were ready to act pretty quickly. We'd known it was coming for some time, so it required us to make a few calls and throw together a party if we wanted to. We were able to enjoy the blessings and we were thankful for that. I am not saying we did anything spectacular or mind boggling here, but we were required to stand by the door, and keep our lamps filled.
My testimony was strengthened by it.

It was difficult at times and we struggled when there were forces around us that tried to prevent us from the goal of what we knew was something very important to our family. It was hard when there was a person did everything they could do to deny us that blessing. It's hard enough when the forces of the adversary work against you, it's a completely different level of difficult when those forces have a name and a face. Easy to shake your fist at the devil, harder to contain yourself when it's a real person.
It was hard not to focus on that, hard not to feel like maybe we weren't wanted by the Lord and maybe we were kidding ourselves that the door would ever open.
We were required to leave it all at the Lord's feet and keep doing what we knew was right for our family. So we kept adding oil to that lamp, kept doing our best, kept having faith and hope. We were not without our failures, but we hung in there until at last, that great and happy day was upon us. And it felt wonderful and it felt right and it felt like nothing I can describe, really, so I'll quit trying to. Suffice it to say it was more than Matt and I ever dreamed it would be. Absolutely worth it.
The journey doesn't end there, but we had been blessed beyond measure.
I'm trying to find a way to talk about that other side of the coin that had a profound effect on me as well.
I thought about the times in life when I wasn't ready for things, when the doors to blessings were opened and I wasn't prepared and I had to wait while I got my act together and then...the season passed. I often underestimate what a huge role patience played in that parable, I thought it was always about working hard to keep that lamp filled. I realize now that the hardest part for me was having patience until that blessing came. Not knowing or being able to control WHEN the good part came was so hard. Keeping my watch, keeping my chin up never knowing if it was just around the corner, or months and years away.
I can't know how many doors that were opened, filled with blessings that I missed because I wasn't ready, or I got impatient. I can't live my life looking back and wondering what was missed, but I cannot just pounce on forward and pretend that there wasn't a price for my choices, either.
If I don't learn from those missed things, I am destined to repeat them. After having successfully achieved an amazing goal and enjoyed the blessings from such, I don't really want to learn lessons the hard way like I once was so eager to do.
All that God has to teach us, we will learn. We will learn those lessons in love and if we refuse to learn them in love, we will learn them in pain.
I choose love.
I need to now have the patience and wisdom to follow through with that choice because while the painful lessons can keep one busy and excited and feeling "alive" in some sense, the gentle, loving lessons feel so much better.
It's not just about keeping that lamp filled it' about having the faith that the door WILL open and when it does, the blessings and rewards will be beyond measure.
It will always be worth it.
It will always be more than what you thought it would be.
It will always bring you joy.
Nothing brings to light the truthfulness of being patient, keeping your lamp filled, and being ready for when the moment comes that reading about the story of how sweet Nathan came into our family. Lori and Brent were ready and when that door opened, they were there and brought not only their son, but many other children of parents who weren't quite so ready home. They were featured this weekend in the Deseret News this weekend and I was reminded once again at what an example my sister in law is to me and that blessings from the lord aren't just good feelings in your heart, they are often concrete, very real things. Real things like a sweet little boy who makes eye contact now and lets others hold him- as long as Mama is close by. Real things like a forever family.
Lori's right when she says God doesn't short change anyone.